Insight

Insight is a deep understanding of a subject. And, in today’s world, most are jack of all and master of none. So, how about we guide our kids to dig deeper whenever they come across a subject they find fascinating? It’s not even difficult nowadays. With Google, the vast information is just a tap or click away. Help them turn jack of all and master of a few, at least. This habit will stay with them till the end and will help them in academics and later on professionally.

Nothing brings out weaknesses better than an insight. Nothing brings about success better than an insight.

 

Goodwill

It goes a long way for someone who is agreeable and gentle in dealings. Maintaining goodwill is highly crucial. It helps to form good relations with your peers and create a good impression overall. After all, you get the same kind of behavior from the other side what you give out. Brat behavior hardly flies by. Our kids should know that goodwill is a two-way street. One reaps what one sows! So, don’t wait for tomorrow, start inculcating the quality of goodwill in your kids as early as possible.

Justice and goodwill will outlast passion. James A. Garfield

Enmity

Disagreements lead to anger, sustenance of anger ushers in enmity. Disagreement is good, anger is not always bad, but enmity is unfortunately painful.  Do our kids get the word dissent? Do we, as parents, get the word dissent, when it comes to them? Do we respect their dissent when they are dissenting our move, do we listen to them at that point or we force our decision on them? These are life situations which form, often unbearable, cycle of enmity.

There must be a window for disagreement, yes at times, disagreement when not resolved, ends with a stern “please follow”. Fewer these instances better the learning, better the bonding. Keeping kids out of harm’s way means we work with them to neutralize anger as and when it builds up, at school, at home, in the neighborhood, wherever. At no stage enmity has a window of being extension to anger, that just doesn’t work.

Fearless

Fear is the key to disappointment, maybe even disaster. Moreover, when you are afraid of the outcome, it is tough to be at your best. It is important to give your all and be hopeful that your good is good enough. Furthermore, it works for many when they think of the victory being ahead of defeat and they are being ahead of victory itself. Above all, at the end of the day it is we being ahead of victory and defeat both which holds key to success. Being Fearless is an interesting dimension to life.

Our kids must learn to be fearless. They must work and play fearlessly. Fear of falling behind in a race should be won over by the joy of winning the race. Winners always look beyond the win, they look at life holistically.

How does one become fearless?   By having a plan B and a plan C, maybe even a plan D. Yes, options and way out work best in tackling fear. Our kids must create “what if” scenarios and get empowered to overcome fear of failure. Life works.

Encouragement

You can do it; Come on, I know you are a winner; If anyone can make it happen, it is you; Yes, you have it in you;  Here comes the leader in making. At some point or another we all use these sentences to encourage our children. Encouragement works, but our kids must believe these sentences. For them to have belief in our words, a strong base is needed.

Our kids need to live an “open and willing” approach to life. In other words, they should be open for innovation and ideas and, willing to risk experimenting them. Notwithstanding merits of suggestion, willingness to walk on road less traveled is a huge self confidence building force. Listening to inner voice helps, they should have control over their priority act and emotion. Yes, of course goals help.

Encouragement should never be at a superficial level. If you have not shown any interest in how your child is preparing for exams, it is unlikely that words of encouragement would make a substantial difference.

Courage

Courage is an important human trait that every parent wants to imbibe in their children. Courage is the ability to overcome obstacles, to remain steadfast in the face of adversities, and to face every challenge no matter how big or small it is. But are we, as parents, really working hard to make our child courageous? Being overprotective and shielding them from all troubles can make them weak, unable to cope with difficulties. This does not mean that they should be left out in the cold all by themselves.

As parents, we should guide our children and make them strong enough to be able to overcome their challenges by themselves. As they grow older, the challenges would also increase; thus, being courageous would help.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill

Determination

Purpose seeds determination. Firmness of purpose steels the resolve and ‘desire to achieve’ transforms into ‘must achieve’. Winning and losing happen. It is not only us who can be determined, our opponent too is likely to be equally determined. Moreover, it is doing best in victory and failure which acts as a support structure for unbeatable determination.

As a parent it is imperative to participate, active participation gives a true assessment about whether child is giving up too early or the task in hand is not of interest or liking. It can be an issue of aptitude too. If interest, liking and aptitude are in place, it is the determination to never, ever give up which curates winners.

I shall have no fear of the enemy when I go into battle and with determination, I will be victorious – Guru Gobind Singh

Respond

No response is indeed a legit response. To respond intelligently one must comprehend the question asked in its totality, study all its contours and frame a response within boundaries of the subject. Times do become tough. All news is not good news. How do we respond to bad news demonstrates what we are made of? A knee jerk reaction to bad news is of course personification of immaturity.

Power to respond is indeed power to choose and power to change. Our response does affect the discourse irrespective of whether it can change its course or not. Our kids need to see us responding to haters or hyper negative people, and we need to be conscious that we are teaching how to respond to them.

Responding responsibly is a trait of winners, leaders and achievers. Our response does change us and shall always do.

Contentment

When you are happy, and you know it – you are contended. At times, contentment is everything one needs in life. However, satisfaction doesn’t come easily to most, the chasm between desire and achievement is usually the culprit.

On the flip side, contentment may result in complacence. Kids must be hungry for success and contended with materialistic things. A sense of comfort in terms of acquiring knowledge does slow down learning and, in turn growth. ‘To get’ and ‘to achieve’ are two independent yardsticks. It is good to be easy to be contented with what you get, nonetheless when it comes to achieving – contentment shouldn’t come easy. Bar should really be set high.

Contentment is the only real wealth – Alfred Nobel

Hope

Hope keeps us going, to expect all is well is natural. However, to align expectations with ground realities is tough. Mismatch of expectations leads to disbelief when dream is shattered. Unfortunately, hopelessness takes us to blame game and all hell breaks loose.

Goal and hope are closely connected. Sadly, hope doesn’t assist in achieving goal; focus and hard-work do. Optimism is good but realism is better, hope does help in reigniting fire after a setback and it is necessary to do.

If our kids consider hope as a motivator rather than a magic wand or a miracle box, it is a beautiful thing.