Communication

The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. George Bernard Shaw

It is important to understand what one wishes to say before it is said. Communicating is essential to living whereas, clear-cut communication is the key to good living. Prerequisite for leadership is one’s ability to communicate effectively, every time.

An ear for listening, polite language, facts, affirmative approach, curated body language and zero provocative overtures lay a good foundation for effective communication. Moreover, communicating is not just saying. Communicating is conveying and reaffirming that message has been delivered. Lack of effectively communicating often create wide chasms of disconnect.

Dialogues work, monologues unleash the devil.

Intelligence

Studying for long hours and no play. Do you think this will make your child intelligent? Probably not.

Times have changed. In this competitive world, each one of us can create our identity through our intelligence. This means if we want the overall development of our children we must help them to apply logic. They must know how to create opportunities for themselves despite all the challenges and hurdles which come across their way. One must be always motivated to hear what others say. They must develop certain cognitive abilities which includes willing to learn, solve problems, reason, retain information and comprehend ideas. These abilities can be achieved if they are less pressurized, stay hydrated, have a sound sleep and regularly meditate.

This will help them to be prompt and also develop intelligence. If you wish to see your child growing, you must teach them –

Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligentlyHenry Ford

Festivities

Can festivities be independent of the religion we follow? Yes, they are. We can follow any religion but we can join in all festivities of any religion. To have fun is universal joy, which religion gives us that joy doesn’t matter.

Let our kids soar high and enjoy to the fullest. Let them have fun with family and friends of every religion with same fervor. Yes, we need to do that for them to do that too. Let us be regular at all festivals.

Insight

Insight is a deep understanding of a subject. And, in today’s world, most are jack of all and master of none. So, how about we guide our kids to dig deeper whenever they come across a subject they find fascinating? It’s not even difficult nowadays. With Google, the vast information is just a tap or click away. Help them turn jack of all and master of a few, at least. This habit will stay with them till the end and will help them in academics and later on professionally.

Nothing brings out weaknesses better than an insight. Nothing brings about success better than an insight.

Goodwill

It goes a long way for someone who is agreeable and gentle in dealings. Maintaining goodwill is highly crucial. It helps to form good relations with your peers and create a good impression overall. After all, you get the same kind of behavior from the other side what you give out. Brat behavior hardly flies by. Our kids should know that goodwill is a two-way street. One reaps what one sows! So, don’t wait for tomorrow, start inculcating the quality of goodwill in your kids as early as possible.

Justice and goodwill will outlast passion. James A. Garfield

Enmity

Disagreements lead to anger, sustenance of anger ushers in enmity. Disagreement is good, anger is not always bad, but enmity is unfortunately painful.  Do our kids get the word dissent? Do we, as parents, get the word dissent, when it comes to them? Do we respect their dissent when they are dissenting our move, do we listen to them at that point or we force our decision on them? These are life situations which form, often unbearable, cycle of enmity.

There must be a window for disagreement, yes at times, disagreement when not resolved, ends with a stern “please follow”. Fewer these instances better learning, better bonding. Keeping kids out of harm’s way means we work with them to neutralize anger as and when it builds up, at school, at home, in the neighborhood, wherever. At no stage enmity has a window of being extension to anger, that just doesn’t work.

Fearless

Fear is the key to disappointment, maybe even disaster. Moreover, when you are afraid of the outcome, it is tough to be at your best. It is important to give your all and be hopeful that your good is good enough. Furthermore, it works for many when they think of the victory being ahead of defeat and they are being ahead of victory itself. Above all, at the end of the day it is we being ahead of victory and defeat both which holds the key to success. Being Fearless is an interesting dimension to life.

Our kids must learn to be fearless. They must work and play fearlessly. Fear of falling behind in a race should be won over by the joy of winning the race. Winners always look beyond the win, they look at life holistically.

How does one become fearless?   By having a plan B and a plan C, maybe even a plan D. Yes, options and way out work best in tackling fear. Our kids must create “what if” scenarios and get empowered to overcome fear of failure. Life works.

Encouragement

You can do it; Come on, I know you are a winner; If anyone can make it happen, it is you; Yes, you have it in you;  Here comes the leader in making. At some point or another we all use these sentences to encourage our children. Encouragement works, but our kids must believe these sentences. For them to have belief in our words, a strong base is needed.

Our kids need to live an “open and willing” approach to life. In other words, they should be open for innovation and ideas , and willing to risk experimenting them. Notwithstanding the merits of suggestion, willingness to walk on the road less traveled is a huge self confidence building force. Listening to the inner voice helps, they should have control over their priority act and emotion. Yes, of course goals help.

Encouragement should never be at a superficial level. If you have not shown any interest in how your child is preparing for exams, it is unlikely that words of encouragement would make a substantial difference.

Courage

Courage is an important human trait that every parent wants to imbibe in their children. Courage is the ability to overcome obstacles, to remain steadfast in the face of adversity, and to face every challenge no matter how big or small it is. But are we, as parents, really working hard to make our child courageous? Being overprotective and shielding them from all troubles can make them weak, unable to cope with difficulties. This does not mean that they should be left out in the cold all by themselves.

As parents, we should guide our children and make them strong enough to be able to overcome their challenges by themselves. As they grow older, the challenges would also increase; thus, being courageous would help.

Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts. Winston Churchill

Determination

Purpose seeds determination. Firmness of purpose steels the resolve and ‘desire to achieve’ transforms into ‘must achieve’. Winning and losing happen. It is not only us who can be determined, our opponent too is likely to be equally determined. Moreover, it is doing best in victory and failure which acts as a support structure for unbeatable determination.

As a parent it is imperative to participate, active participation gives a true assessment about whether the child is giving up too early or the task in hand is not of interest or liking. It can be an issue of aptitude too. If interest, liking and aptitude are in place, it is the determination to never, ever give up which curates winners.

I shall have no fear of the enemy when I go into battle and with determination, I will be victorious – Guru Gobind Singh