Frankness is good, almost always. At times frankness does more damage than it does good and that is where the shoe hurts. How do we teach frankness to our kids and how do we make sure that their plain-speaking doesn’t create chasms which are too wide to fill? The objective behind plain-speak should be positive, it just can’t be insensitive to the feelings of others.
There is a very thin wall between plain-speak and insult. Further, insults stick long after the matter or subject is forgotten and the world has moved on. Insult becomes a matter of heart where as plain-speak is a matter of mind. That’s the distinction which our kids need to learn – always stop short of insulting others.